Relationship privilege

So I want to coin a new term called Relationship privilege.
It’s when you’ve had at least one stable, constant loving relationship.

And you might be thinking – wait, how is that a privilege?
Isn’t that just… normal? Isn’t that just the status quo.

Sadly no. For some people, it’s not.

Some of us have never had a single relationship like that.
Not a parent. Siblings. Not even a friend we could truly rely on.

I first thought about this term while grieving a life I never had.
Because to someone who’s relationship privileged,
they can’t always see the gaps in people like me.

The things they take for granted like
a mum to call
a dad who shows up
a friend who stays

Like these are things that people with no relationship privilege would ache for. They’re things that I ache for.